Have you seen people using the phrase “it’s complicated” to describe their relationship status on social media profiles? Is there any chance that you’ve used that description yourself?
Relationships don’t seem to be the only thing getting more complicated these days. Why do you think that is? If you could pick out one major reason why life seems more complicated than it used to, what would you say?
Complicated is
as complicated thinks!
While there are no doubt many contributors, here’s a reason you probably didn’t think of. As it turns out, dealing with complex issues actually conditions us to look for complicated solutions. This means that we often overlook simple solutions, even when they are right in front of our face. Could it be that our own thinking is actually making things more complex than necessary?
Conditioning has a lot to do with how simple or complex we view the world we live in. To help you experience this phenomenon for yourself, I invite you to watch this short video and do the four simple exercises in it. There’s an important lesson here that can help our relationship status, whether that relationship is with another person, ourselves, or the world in general. Enjoy!
Try simple first
Now rest assured, I’m not saying that everything is always simple. Truth is, some things are more complex and require complex solutions. The point I really want to make is that we should look for a simple solution first. That means avoiding the tendency to assume that our challenges are more difficult than they really are.
Let’s go back to “relationship status” for a moment. Could it be that a large dose of honest communication would uncomplicated things considerably? Avoiding honest communication can complicate the daylights out of a relationship. Maybe we have been assuming things about the other person that simply aren’t accurate. Why not ask them to tell you how they feel instead of jumping to conclusions.
All long term, meaningful relationships will face challenges from time to time. Don’t get hypnotized by the seeming complexity of the situation. Try to keep it simple, open, and honest, and see if thing don’t end up feeling much less complicated. I think you will be glad you did.
What do you feel makes relationships seem complicated? Have you found any simple solutions you are willing to share?
The lines are open and your thoughts are valuable!
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