Personal Magnetism:- Have you got it?

Let us understand. You cannot reasonably hope to succeed by merely dreaming about success.

You surely cannot achieve success if you plunge blindly through your career or life.

Equally you cannot really succeed without possessing some degree of personal magnetism.

When you began reading this article, you certainly possessed a measure of magnetic capacity, either physical or psychic. If you have energetically observed its development, you have most likely acquired both varieties; but, above that, you have also combined them into one living whole, the magnetic personality.

So what is Personal Magnetism?  It is probably hard to define but easy to recognise.  The businessman who seems to always get agreement about everything that he wants.  The young mother who all the kids love and all the parents want to be friends with.  This Magnetism or Charisma, make people want to trust you and follow you.

Magnetism is a natural growth.

No matter how great your ability to read and understand books, that growth, that law, requires time as well as intelligent effort. No matter how poor your ability in such respect, that growth is absolutely certain if you put reasonable time and genuine effort into its acquisition.

The giant trees of California were once puny saplings. The slow lapse of time has drawn nature into their mighty hearts. Magnetism can no more be acquired by the mere reading of an article, or by hurried practice of its directions, than can these giants of the west coast be produced in the hot-house culture of a northern summer.

Magnetic growth is naturally slow. We have all seen the people that just appear to be so fake and you just can’t trust them.  These are people that are trying to short cut the process of developing Personal Magnetism.  Don’t falling to the trap of being a phoney (you may just get your face slapped).

This Personal Magnetism comes about in several ways.  Olivia Fox Cabane
says that there are four types of Charisma.  The first is “Focus”.  This is a situation where the possessor of this type of Personal Magnetism, can make the other person feel like they are the only person in the room.  Keys here are to actively listen, ask great questions and be interested in that person.  You will be surprised how much someone will reveal to you if they believe that you care about them.

The second type of Personal Magnetism is that of “Authority”.  People will want to listen and obey the person with this type of Magnetism.  Just be careful exercising this power too much as it may push people away and certainly will prevent people giving you honest feedback.

Steve Jobs had “Visionary” Magnetism.  He could walk on to a stage, say a few words, and unveil a new phone and the whole world was inspired.  This magnetism certain caused people to follow him, and they demonstrated this by buying his products in huge numbers.

The fourth of Charism is “kindness”.  Religious leaders often demonstrate this Magnetism.  The best example would be the Dali Lama who has developed a massive following around the world.

So don’t rush the development of your Personal Magnetism skills, keep practicing and you will get better every day. Then it will be second nature to you and just a part of you every day life.

Magnetism and practical life.

The true value of magnetism consists in its practical application to everyday life. Success-Magnetism is not an accomplishment merely; it is a practical power. When rightly developed and used, people will want to trust you and follow you.  This obviously can be of great assistance to anyone.

So charisma is perfect when you have to deal with a particularly difficult person in the work environment and you have to win their trust and rebuild the relationship. You could use you skills of either focus or warmth charisma, which will enable you to establish an emotional bond with pretty much anyone.

Developing Personal Magnetism

Don’t force the issue here.  The consequences of getting it wrong in certain situations can be dire.

A lot of this gets back to your attitude and how you want to interact with other people.  An introvert can still have tremendous Personal Magnetism.  Start out by trying different ways of introducing yourself or meeting someone for the first time.  Use low risk environments, like when you are buying a coffee or getting some fuel for the car.  Use your little successes to continue to develop your Magnetism and soon you will be exercising your power.

How have you used your Personal Magnetism, let me know?